The Loop: Blush, Buzz, Repeat
What do I mean by Humiliation Loop? There’s a specific little trapdoor you can fall through, and once it opens, it’s hard to shut: you feel embarrassed, the embarrassment creates a spark, and then the turn-on becomes more embarrassing—so the whole thing spins faster. That’s “the loop,” and it’s not complicated so much as it is sticky: a self-perpetuating mix of anxiety and the intoxicating feeling of being seen for being the exact thing you’d rather hide. The twist is that you don’t want it to stop—you want an in-charge Mistress who can make the rules and let the truth feel irresistible.
SPH: When Your Small Insecurity Becomes the Loop
If you crave SPH, you already know it’s about the moment you feel exposed, and the jolt that hits when I call you on it. You don’t want polite; you want anywhere on the spectrum of sensuous to mean teasing that lands right on your tender “nub” because that’s where the electricity is, and you like how fast the sensation floods you with excitement. The humiliation loop tightens because the more you squirm, the more you want it, and the more you want it, the more you squirm—so you come back for the one thing you can’t give yourself: a dominatrix who knows exactly how far to take you.
“Gay Derick” and the Cock Lover Loop
Maybe you’re like “Gay Derick,” married, who claims to come off as “very straight in real life” and yet still calls me to unload scores of daily secret hookups with men, like he’s handing me evidence… then always asks, “Do you think I’m gay?” That’s the humiliation loop too: you confess, you get a rush, some part of you needs confirmation of the humiliation and the confirmation gives you permission to confess again—because what you’re really addicted to is being witnessed without flinching.
Cuckolding: The Comparison Loop You Can’t Get Enough Of
And then there’s the cuck loop, which is all about the sting of comparison: you want the ache of “not being enough for her,” the humiliation of being outmatched, the tension of watching your own ego wobble while your desire “grows”. The embarrassment lights you up, your jealousy fuels it, and your fantasy becomes a controlled way to feel powerless on purpose. When it’s done right, the humiliation loop doesn’t spiral—it creates a specific kind of intensity as I push you to that hot, humiliating edge where you love surrendering.
What Kind of HumiliationLoop Are You In?
Maybe you’re in a Feminization, Femdom, or Extreme Humiliation Loop or some other specific fetish. The “Loop” works for almost any topic you can think of. Many thanks to my caller, Scarf Slut, who introduced me to the theory of the Loop, and inspired this post! If you’d like to chat with me about this or anything on your mind, you can check my Schedule here. I’m here most days from around 1pm-1am.
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xo Mistress Audrey
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Such a great way to describe what so many of us go through! Definitely feels like a loop at times – and without proper guidance it can really feel like being caught in the loop. We’re so lucky to have you to guide us Mistress Audrey!
Thanks Emma, I agree. The Loop can also extend in a different way to Feminization, which has it’s times of fading out and then pulling back in hard. Can’t wait to discuss more with you!
x A.
What a great blog! It’s strange, I can’t help it, for me there are more trigger moments. The sight of a dominant woman, the idea of being feminized by a dominant woman is incredibly powerful.
Sometimes just the voice.
Thank you for the beautiful blog MsAudrey!
Casandra, thanks for stopping by! Sounds like you know “the Loop” well!
xx
You explained a process that is very easy to get stuck in. And once in it, you can get embarrassed about being there, and it just keeps amplifying. Despite my EE name, I can caught in the loop of enjoying being spanked. I get embarrassed about it turning me on, that makes it harder to get turned on, spanking gets me going, rinse, repeat, reinforce…and the wheel keeps on turning.
Love this wellspanked! Being in the loop can be so enjoyable if you lean in. 😉
Oh Ms Audrey you sure know your Humiliation Loop lovers! I know how fantastic of a humilatrix you are, and I think someone reading this blog needs to have a taste of YOU!
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Aw thanks Ms. Erika! Back at you, always love doing a 2 Mistress Humiliatrix session with you!